This is something that I personally really struggle with. If someone pisses me off, and I mean really pisses me off, I find it hard to just take a deep breath and let it go. As a result of this, I’ve come up with a few coping mechanisms which I have to say I don’t put into action as much as I should but hey, the thought counts right? How To Let It Go Don’t Take It Personally I feel like half of the time when people have a go at you, they’re not really angry at you, they’re angry about something that’s happened previously and you’ve probably just tipped them over the edge and received the full force of their anger. I know its really hard not to bite back when someone is quite possibly making personal and hurtful comments – because we all know when you’re in an argument you’re going for the low blows, but just try and think about the fact that it’s not personal and let it go over your head. Remove Yourself From The Situation Removing yourself from the situation is a great way of making sure that you don’t bite back. Take a walk, go to your room, do whatever you can or need to do to get away from the situation. Often this can anger the person more if they’re looking to let of some steam and have a real barney but you’ve got to think of yourself and what’s best for you, get yo’self outta there! Start Everyday Fresh I try to never go to bed on an argument, I just think it’s horrible and you should always make up where possible! But, if you absolutely cannot make amends, then try to wake up the next day and brush it under the carpet. Take everyday as a new start and don’t hold a grudge or bring it up, I know it’s hard if somone’s pissed you off and all you want to do it make sassy comments about something their doing (guilty) but all it’ll do is start up the row again. Grit your teeth and offer to make them a cup of tea, it’s for the best I promise! Don’t Wait For An Apology Waiting for an apology is pretty much holding on to a grudge. You need to learn to forgive people without an apology as often the other person will think that they’re owed an apology too so essentially, your holding you’re breath for something that’ll never happen! I read a quote once that I always remember when I’m driving round mentally plotting the way’s to take revenge on the unlucky person who’s pissed me off that day – “Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die” it only affects you! Not the other person, they’re oblivious and getting on with their lives, or mentally plotting the ways to take revenge on you. I hope you liked this post and found it helpful! I’m trying to get back to…

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My Top 5 Mood Lifters

I feel like I need to share with you my Mood Lifters. You all loved my post about The Happiness Habit and Speaking More Positively so these are another trick in my little metaphorical positivity bag! My Favourite Mood Lifters Light A Candle Set the scene, this is such a simple thing but candles really relax me. Being relaxed makes me happy. It’s pretty simple! I never used to burn my candles, I mean a burnt candle isn’t very photogenic now is it? But the smell and atmosphere a candle brings far outweighs the look of an unburnt candle! Do Some Colouring I don’t know how you feel about this one but I love it. I’ve had a colouring book for a while since I suffered from anxiety I found it helped me a lot with my overthinking and now that it’s become a trend and is therefore socially acceptable it’s even better! Have a Cuddle I love a good cuddle, some people aren’t very touchy feely but personally, I’m a cuddler! Luckily we now have the most beautiful puppy in the whole entire world (she features heavily on my snapchat : sineadcrowe) so I can get my cuddle fill whenever I need it and she can’t say no, not that she’d want to, who wouldn’t want to cuddle me? Go For a Walk When you feel like crap the last thing you want to do is excursive, believe me I know. But going for a short walk always helps me to clear my mind and get a different perspective on things. I’ll often go with my Mum or my best friend and it’s just like therapy, walking and talking and solving your problems. in my opinion, of all the mood lifters this is the one that always works! Pamper Yourself Look after yourself and treat yourself to a little pamper! I feel like just small things like painting your nails and reading a magazine just make you feel so much better. I’ve been terrible and bitten all of my nails of recently but when they’re all nice and painted I feel like I’ve got my shit together!! Make sure you follow me on Bloglovin’ so you can stay up to date with my positive posts which I am trying to do more often as I’ve noticed how popular they are!!! You can follow me here! I’ve also uploaded my first youtube video, a Q&A with a donut challenge thrown in at the end – get to know the person behind the blog and make sure you hit subscribe as I’m hoping to do lots more posts, maybe a look book next! Let me know if there’s a certain video you want to see me do!

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3 Ways Positive Language Can Help You

Learn to speak with intention. Using positive language is something I’ve learnt to do over the past year, it’s easily said than done, believe you me! When we talk about ourselves we often set ourselves up for failure (or make failure an option) before we even begin. I don’t know if it’s the fact that we regularly downplay ourselves because perhaps it’s not socially accepted to talk positively about yourself. I don’t know about you but personally if someone compliments me I instantly feel the need to compliment something back, “your prettier” or “this old thing” just saying “thank you” doesn’t seem like an option! Positive Language I’ve listed out three words or phrases that I challenge you to recognise and implement in your life. I truly believe in the power of the mind, positive thinking and positive language. If your always moaning and talking about how unfortunate you are then do you honestly expect for things to get better? If you don’t even believe in yourself then how on earth can you expect other people to? I Can I know what you’re thinking, it’s something you say everyday. I’m not talking about saying “I can pop the kettle on” etc, I’m talking about swapping it for words like “I might”, non committal words. Words that are used all of the time so you never have to fully commit to something. You can and you will! Using words like this honestly put you back in control. I love this little postcard, my friend got it for me when I decided to hand my notice in at work. As my best friend she saw first hand the decline of my personality and how that place was affecting me. I was taken aback when I told her about my decision and she was so happy, I didn’t realise how obvious it was to everyone else but me! I keep this on my mirror now to remind myself of why positive language is so important and how I can do whatever I want! I Am So many people add in a little “I’ll try” to sentences and I am by no means innocent. I’m doing a 30 day Yoga challenge at the moment and I don’t know how many times I’ve said I’m going to try and do Yoga tonight. By saying you’re going to try you’re already putting it out there that you might not. Be more intentional with what you say and use more positive language! If you want to do it and you are going to do it then say it! I Will This is something I’ve really started to implement recently and I find it’s so great for positivity and truly believing in yourself. It’s not about if something happens it’s about when, its not about I wish, its about I will! Instead of looking up to people and thinking ‘I wish I lived like that‘ I think ‘I can’t wait till thats me!‘. Yes people probably think I’m slightly arrogant but…

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DIY Choker // 2 Simple Steps

1 + 1 = 2 and love for the choker plus no money equals a DIY choker project. You may have seen my previous post on my love for the choker and Danielle Bernstein from We Wore What. In my eyes you just cannot say one without the other, they go together like cheese on crackers or peanut butter and jelly! Anyway, after publicly outing my new obsession I was on the hunt for a choker in my budget, my budget being about £1, I would have stretched to £1.99. I know I said obsessed but when I try something new I like to buy it cheaply first (if its possible of course!) to see if it’s worth investing in the real deal/ the deluxe edition! This is where my little project came in, what’s better than a £1 choker? Thats right! A DIY Choker, zero pennies spent here. Soooo, I thought I would share my little DIY project with you lovely people as it’s literally the easiest thing to do in the world, so easy that I actually contemplated whether it was worthy of a full blog post or if I should just snapchat it? (snapchat username : sineadcrowe – like what I did there?) I’d already shot the pictures so here we are, a full blown blog post for a two step process. DIY Choker Gather your materials So mine literally didn’t cost a penny as I already had this old necklace from when I was younger, you can probably buy this cord/thread from somewhere like Hobbycraft or a haberdashery shop! Alternatively, and something I was debating before I found this gem,  a shoelace could work well? Step One // Cut Cut your thread, ribbon, shoelace, cord, whatever you can lay your hands on, to the length you want your choker to be. I didnt really have much choice with it already being cut, I do like the length of it but I’ve seen ones that wrap round a couple of times and they look pretty snazzy! Step Two // Tie Self explanatory no? Wrap your chosen rope/thing (descriptive I know) and tie in a bow round the front. Or if you have the length and want to it would look good wrapped round a couple of times then tied in a bow! Ta-dah, your very own handmade choker! Shop Chokers If you’re not down with the whole DIY thing, I’ve linked below some of my favourite ones to buy below!! If you do make your own DIY Choker then make sure you let me know and tag me in any pictures so I can see!! Also make sure you’re following me on Bloglovin’ to stay up to date and never miss a post!!

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Making Happiness a Habit

I love a good dose of happiness, who doesn’t? So I thought I would do a little post for you guys getting back to my mindfulness roots with a few of my top tips to create little habits that will bring you more happiness in everyday life, I call them the happiness habits! Speak the Lingo I am SO guilty of this! Using passive words, like ‘I wish‘ or ‘I should‘ or ‘I might‘, passive words! Use active words, next time you find yourself saying ‘I should do this‘ turn it into ‘I will do this‘. I used to always say ‘I wish I was a big fashion blogger like We Wore What, I love her appartment and her wardrobe looks amazing’ now I say ‘I can’t wait till I’m as successful as her and have a wardrobe like that!’ some people see it as arrogance, I see it as determination!! Don’t be a yes man I am 100% not guilty of this! I used to be before I learnt not to be. There is a huge sense of freedom to saying no when you don’t want to do something. Why should you say yes just because you’re free? If you don’t want to do something then don’t. Laugh Your Way To Happiness I’m reading a book called Laugh your way to happiness at the minute and the science behind laughter is pretty incredible! It’s the same with smiling, with laughing you can fake it and still reap the benefits. Forcing yourself to smile will still instantly lift your mood as will faking a laugh! Forcing yourself to laugh also makes spontaneous laughter come more easily! Spread Kindness A small act of kindness can make a huge impact on someone else’s day and let’s be honest, it makes you feel pretty damn good about yourself too! Now I’m not saying you should only do these things to make yourself feel good but . . well why not if it’s helping someone else out as well? Even just letting someone go before you in the queue or carrying someones suitcase up a set of stairs, every little helps! I once gave an old lady that had hurt her ankle a lift back to her car when I saw her limping up the road, I buzzed off that good deed for a good week or so! Listen I’m the worst for this one, I can’t focus on what someone’s saying for more than 5 minutes before I’m thinking about what I’ve got to do later on. 10 minutes later I’ll tune back in and think, shit.. just nod and smile. It’s almost like another good deed really because lets face it, you can tell the difference when someones actually listening to you and when someone does it gives you a true sense of worth. Showing genuine interest in someone and what they’re saying doesn’t take any extra time than day dreaming about what you’re going to eat for tea but it does make a difference to the speaker! Let…

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